I’ve watched the show. I think it’s great that they would put their mugs on TV and catch them in the act. There was seemingly no way for them to get away with what they’d done and no way for them to talk their way out of it. The key word is “seemingly.”
There was a guy that they caught twice, once at the child’s house and then at McDonald’s. His behavior was typical of a child molester. He bitched up really quickly when confronted by an adult about what he was doing. At first I wondered why they let the men go but maybe they didn’t realize they could detain them. After the first show they started arresting them right on the spot. It’s true that men from all walks of life, all colours and sizes showed up to the house. A man even brought his little son to the home of the child he intended to molest. What kind of crap is that? This show does a lot of good in that it catches predators but even their efforts are sometimes thwarted by unjust laws that protect offenders.
There is a lot of focus on male offenders. Usually people are disgusted at male offenders. They’re ready to throw the book at them but they turn around and joke about female offenders. The other night on Jay Leno he made 2 jokes about pedophiles. The first joke was about a female teacher found in bed with not one but 2 of her students. He said it was the result of over crowding in the schools. He said, “Whatever happened to one on one tutoring.” The crowd groaned but they also laughed. In the same show he talked about one of the men who plead guilty on Dateline. He said that the man didn’t get the sentence he should have gotten because he was too short to go to prison. See, our justice system says this man is too short to go to prison because he’ll be “victimized.” Jay said they should give him some shoe lifts and send him up state. Why did he feel differently about the male offender than he did the female offender? TV personalities also do a lot to damage public opinion concerning sexual offenses. I wonder if he realized that in the same show he thought lightly of the boys that were molested but was angered by the girls that were molested. I wonder if he even thought twice about the message he was sending.
I thought more than twice about it. These women are let go to offend again. They’re let go to ruin some little boy’s life. They’re looked at as less dangerous because they are female but truthfully, they’re adding to the number of potential criminals by molesting these boys. There is little help out there for male survivors. The support network for them is less than that for women by a gross percentage but the percentage rate for male survivors to become violent criminals or sex offenders themselves is high also. Does the law understand that they are letting female offenders go so that they can help increase the number of criminals on the street? When you don’t view women as equal predators you give them a free pass to ravage the lives of innocent people. There is nothing funny about that.
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Art by: F. Magdalene
See also: Declaration of the Rights of the Child
To Catch A Predator: Dateline NBC -Wednesday, May 31, 2006-1:36 AM
My husband and I have talked about this too…how older women having sex with boys does not receive the same reaction as older men in the same circumstances does. I’m not sure what this says about our culture but it certainly is every bit as damaging. A childhood is destroyed regardless of the gender of the perpetrator.
Carmon
Without a doubt there are a lot of factors involved but i think that one may be the perception of women being the passive and men being the active part in a sexual relationship which also contributes to child molesting.
So if a female predator molests/rapes her male victim/survivor people may not be as willing to regard him as a passive victim but rather think that he was also active.
It’s hard to describe but there’s another example: A promisk woman is regarded as a slut while a man who has sex with a lot of women is a hero or at least not that pejorative. The woman is abhorrent while the man is desirable.
So that people may think that the male survivor was having his fun or even seducing the female offender. While female survivors are blamed for what happened to them often enough (too often, of course)they are generally still regarded as victims while boys are not.
But it’s also the Patriarchy in a way. You often hear from anti-faminists the gender stereotype of the loving kind-hearted woman making up a dichotomy between the genders that doesn’t exist. The role of the bad guy is attributed to the males (females only if they act not according to the rules of the patriarchy). Though there were female supervisors of concentration camps also who weren’t short of their male colleagues concerning brutality and sadism.
As you know from reading my Blog i know that rape or molesting is not a sexual relationship. I just thought i make clear that i don’t believe that cause it may sound like that. But that’s the way the majority of people see it.
Making a joke out of the suffering of children just makes me absolutely sick! I was abused by both of my parents. My father wound up being unemployable and has been homeless now for years. My mother, on the other hand, has everyone convinced she’s this upstanding citizen and model Christian. It’s unbelievable…I guess that’s what it’s partially about. People just can’t believe that a mother could do anything like CSA to her own child. Stop being so blind, people! Believe it! Oh yeah, I came here to tell you that I got a link up to you on my blog. Dissociation and DID is on my list of things to add to my site and blog. Another priority on my list is to get more info out there in support of male survivors. Any links you know of would be greatly appreciated!