Blossom The Borderline Bigot: Part 1 of 2 -Saturday, August 19, 2006-10:59AM EST
Let me define the borderline bigot. A borderline bigot is any person of any race that makes insensitive comments about another race. They don’t even have to say it in the company of that specific race but it’s even worse when they do. I don’t think of this person as a racist or an extreme bigot because they don’t go around like a hate filled beast spreading destruction in the name of their broken lord (broken lord as opposed to the true loving God). The B.B. type will make racial jokes (any race) or make some racially provocative statement then when you’re mad they respond with tears and spill a condescending lecture about how they aren’t prejudice. There are two main characteristics of a B.B. 1) insensitivity and 2) ignorance. They don’t seem to realize that they are being insensitive and they don’t seem to realize why it is that we are so upset when stuff like this comes up. Case in point:
I was on the phone with Blossom and D* was in the background at Blossom’s house. We were discussing an acquaintance that lost his cat whose name on paper is “little shit.” Blossom said, oh man that’s horrible. Well, D* said something in the background that I didn’t quite hear so I asked Blossom what she said. Blossom got quiet then said with a humor filled tone D*’s uncle named his cat the n-word. She said the actual word. I was furious and when I am furious I get very quiet. Do I expect that from D*? Sure the hell do but I do not expect it from Blossom. She went along with “the crowd” (who at the time was one person) even though what D* said was just wrong. D* has said that word to me more than once and I allowed her to live. I didn’t raise my fist and beat her into the ground. I’m sure some would say that wouldn’t solve anything but trust me, they would think twice before saying something like that again. D* is just prejudice but Blossom seems to be more of a borderline bigot. She’s the careless, insensitive type that when you get offended starts really acting hurt that you feel offended when you “know I’m not prejudice.” But see, she’s the same person that made an Aunt Jamima joke one time then another time she said the hat I had on made me look like I should be out in a cotton field. When she said those things she gasped like, “Where did that come from?” She is a person that makes racial slurs without even thinking about how hurtful they are but I’m suppose to pat her back as she balls her eyes out apologizing for hurting me. Even if she “didn’t mean to hurt me” it doesn’t mean it no longer hurts because “she didn’t mean to.” If someone steps on your toe and then does the common “I am so sorry” does that take away the pain? No, your toe still throbs, the pain is still there and it’s real even though the toe was not targeted for a good smashing. Just because a person say’s I didn’t mean to IT DOES NOT MAKE THE PAIN GO AWAY.
I gotta take a breather here. Besides, I’m tired. I need to sleep.
Austin
You are right on!! both behaviors are unacceptable in my opinion. As a very young person still forming ones own morals sometimes we do things such as this, as horrible as that is to admit. but, upon some sort of maturing I think we would all expect that type of behavior to cease. Too often people “slip” when it is indeed their real opinion. I can understand exactly where you are coming from and why this would hurt!
John and keepers
Austin: I’m sorry you were hurt by somebody’s thoughtless remarks. And when they turn it around and make it “all about them” with the tears, etc., it doesn’t take away their responsibility for “slipping” and saying something that they KNOW can be quite hurtful.
BTW–I love your term, “broken lord.” It is perfect! I’ve been searching for a term like that forever! My Lord is not broken, cannot be broken, cannot be offended, and is a truly loving God. I like the distinction!