Monthly Archive for September, 2006

Train Tracks Dream

Dr.B this is the train track dream…
From grandmother’s house with the mother trying to figure out what to eat for dinner, fridge gross and filled with half empty bottles of ketch, grape jelly and relish. Left the g-mother’s house to go jogging ended up in old school, same stair case in the dreams but something new happened. I ended up leaving that school to walk down the street. I walked a bit and met up with old friends. Talked about a guy that was killed recently. I’d read in the paper that he was in town. The guy was hit by a train. The guy was the king of his own country and someone I’d met a long time ago when he was about 18 and a prince. I was supposed to marry him but didn’t. The specifics are what kinda worry me. In the other dream from a very long time ago he was the prince of …. get this, the prince of Wheaton, Illinois. His name was Wes. He had been killed earlier that week by the same man who was present when his father died. That man’s name was Wilkinson. He was killed on the train tracks too.

The train tracks that I later went down were winding. They crossed in and out and across each other. I was running across them with bare feet and trying not to step on jagged rocks. I was following behind a man whose face I never saw. Tall black man, heavy set, dark skin, blue jacket, black pants, needed a hair cut. He seemed to know where he was going and how to get around the mess of tracks. Ever once in awhile a short train would come by and I’d have to second guess it. I’d have to anticipate which track he would go down and be out of the way. It was never a close call. I actually moved about that twisted block of tracks with ease the same as the guy in front of me. Other people who attempted the tracks didn’t do it so well. They were hit by the trains. There were bodies being picked up by the morgue. Most of them had severed legs and bled out but others were hit full body on and died immediately. This man and I never got hit. We avoided looking too long at the accidents because it would distract us from anticipating the moves of the train.

I never saw the man’s face, just his back. He seemed to be helpful. He seemed to know how to move around the tracks without getting hit.

What struck me as odd was that I was kinda having fun choosing little icons, especially the duck to represent me. They called me Little Duck for so long that I actually still go by it. Somehow that feels different than being called by my birth name. I’m not sure why but it does. So when it came time to choose something for the guy I couldn’t choose a humorous icon. I felt rather sad then kinda drifted away. I dissociated for just a second then kicked into some skills. What just happened? Why has this changed? Everything was okay until the last icon.

This dream was so specific with names and clothing, the store and the entrance to the side, the chain link fence around the store, the placement of the bodies in relation to the fire trucks (not an ambulance but a fire truck). It’s all exactly as it was in the dream. My relation to the man is the way it was in the dream. The only differences are the funny icons which set the mood to a humorous one. The dream was not considered a nightmare because I didn’t wake feeling like my stomach collapsed on itself. I didn’t feel empty and weighed down by invisible sheet rock.

Common theme-

  • The grandmother’s house
  • Prince Wes was in a dream one other time
  • Wheaton, Illinois

New

  • *** Train tacks
  • The black man that I followed
  • The train tracks were interesting because of a past experience. I use to live by one. At times I would cross the field and go up the hill, maneuver around dropped coal and sit on the tracks waiting for the train to come. It didn’t come so I went back home. Recently I thought for just a second about exiting this place. It was a fleeting thought but a scary one since it’s come up about 3 times in the last month or so. I know I’m capable of trying so I’m watching my step very closely, conserving emotional energy when I can and spending it wisely.

    Aussie

    Early Start With Java

    Ah, well, so today, though slow and chilly hasn’t been that bad. I don’t feel up to par but I feel a lot better. Does this mean the house will be cleaned? Doubt it! It means I’ll sit back and enjoy this cup of java. I use to make coffee for IU back in the day. Oh the Women’s Studies Dept hated that I was the coffee girl but they didn’t hesitate to come up and buy it. I was technically the secretary but I think I typed a letter once a month and picked up the mail. Basically they wanted me to keep the coffee pot filled. I was fresh out of high school working at Indiana University for $6.00 an hour but all I did was make coffee. I figure with that bit of change per hour I was doing okay until 30 days later when the insurance benefits kicked in. That’s when I knew I was sitting on gold! Health insurance for making college profs coffee. I could deal with that. I’ve kept some of those contacts too.

    The lady in the History Dept use to make the coffee but since she had real work to do they started letting the new girl do it, me. Well, after a bit I decided to mess with people and toss up a tip cup. People gave tips in that cup. The lady at the History Dept. came over and said, “You little shit, I’ve been here for umpteen years and never thought to put up a tip cup. You little shit!” she walked out laughing. Well, what I did next got the same response. See, people came in and paid a quarter for the coffee and then left a quarter tip but sometimes they came in to get change for a dollar or more. I told them that I was running a coffee shop in the African-American Studies Dept not a bank. I charged 20% to make change. LOL. They did it. My supervisor didn’t care at all as long as I kept that coffee pot full he didn’t care what I did. So, I started coming up with all these extras for the coffee. They usually went over well but one didn’t. I was told to never make that fu-fu coffee again. I got the idea from a catalog that we bought our coffee from, some expensive place that I can’t believe people get coffee from. I have to say right now I’m drinking that combo and it’s still good for me but every time I drink it I laugh because I hear the super telling me to never make that fu-fu coffee again because there were no yuppies or snots in his Dept. So, Dr. H.B with your PhD, new BMW, two children in private schools, long time wife, beautiful home in one of the best neighborhoods in Indy, this cup is for you!

    • One pot of coffee
    • Sugar and creamer to taste
    • * Tad bit of cinnamon
    • Tad bit of vanilla extract

    If you’ve feeling adventurous add a bit of chocolate syrup. I like it both ways but I prefer it without the chocolate.

    * Make each cup individually. Add the dry ingredients then the coffee or the cinnamon will not dissolve well enough.

    I got this from a catalog back in 1990 but I can’t remember which one it was. There are cinnamon creamers you can buy at Wally World and what not but hey, if you have cinnamon and creamer at home why waste the money on buying something totally different? In Culinary School we learned that in the restaurant business you don’t buy ingredients that are only used in one dish. I keep that in mind when I purchase things in the store. I can only do one thing with cinnamon creamer but with the two separate ingredients I can do a heck of a lot. It’s cheaper and it allows for variety without waste.

    cheers

    Aussie

    Therapy and Therapy Styles

    Therapy -Friday, September 29, 2006-5:25PM

    I think I spent half the session dissociated. I was quite embarrassed. I do remember thinking he is funny. That’s good cause I hate lifeless therapists. This guy isn’t lifeless and I appreciate that. Sometimes you get a therapist that says nothing, shows no emotion and just sits there. Well, I can talk to a wall at home and get that response so heck I don’t need to pay a living being to sit like a lump, say nothing and feel nothing. I’m happy this guy isn’t like that. The one I had before him seemed to want to see me cry each and every session. She seemed to drag tears out of me like a dentist fresh out of nova cane. Open up, this is gonna hurt but it’s for your own good. Damn that woman, I hated going there.

    My frustration is the condition of this house. I can’t seem to get it together. At least I made dinner last night. The last few nights I’ve eaten stuff like on those commercials with the three woman that compete to see who ate the worst meal the night before. Oh, I had double hamburger with no bun, I had three French fries and a box of snack cakes, I had cod baked with stir fry veggies in a garlic herb sauce with a side of garlic bread. The third is what I cooked last night, the other two examples of how I’ve eaten the last few days. I have to admit the fish was good and very much on time. I hate cold food. I’m not into sandwiches and cold foods. I do like salad now, I didn’t use to but I’m kinda into it right now. I’m pissed about the spinach thing right now cause I love fresh spinach on my salads. That water lettuce is worthless so I rarely add it but romaine and other greens are great so I load up on them. I have to watch eating other greens with too much Vitamin K in them because of my blood thinning issue. I hate that Vitamin K can only be had in limited quantities and grapefruit is totally out the window for me. Dang it, I like Ruby Red but I can’t have it..heart condition stuff….sucks! Vitamin K has to do with the blood thinner med so that I don’t throw another clot to my heart. I have a filter but hey why flirt with danger ya know? I can’t afford to have too thin blood or blood that doesn’t clot. Good Lord, a friend asked me if she is old at age 50. Uh, no, my body is 35 years old but my mind retired a few years back. It’s sitting someplace in the Keys baking in the sun. At least that’s where I was when I last saw it thriving. Sometimes I miss it but other times I figure I’ve done without it so long it would feel odd to have it back.

    Aussie

    Aussie Confessional

    Aussie Confessional-Thursday, September 28, 2006-11:15AM

    Ten Things Plus 1 You never knew about Aussie

    1. The only pet I had as a kid was a frog.
    2. I’m a country music junkie, Napster can verify that. (current favorite, That’s What I love About Sunday by Craig Morgan). I remember when Sewyer Brown was on Star Search. :-)
    3. My childhood favorite song was The Rose by Bet Middler
    4. I once gave up free tickets to see Fiddler on the Roof to stay home and visit with a close friend.
    5. I just started eating chocolate 2 years ago; up until then I couldn’t stand it.
    6. I think bald men are sexy; Jon Luc Picard made bald men sexy.
    7. I like the nerd guy on Criminal Minds; the girl fed agent is just irritating.
    8. I write backhand on most occasions
    9. I bake horrible cookies that might as well serve as IED’s. If tossed at a head they could be considered a weapon of massive destruction. Just nasty and hard!
    10. I’m ambidextrous
    11. Although I have no sense of time or direction I’m drawn to antique clocks and compasses.

    That’s What I Love About Sunday

    Artist/Band: Morgan Craig
    Lyrics for Song: That’s What I Love About Sunday
    Lyrics for Album: My Kind of Livin

    Raymond’s in his Sunday best,
    He’s usually up to his chest in oil an’ grease.
    There’s the Martin’s walkin’ in,
    With that mean little freckle-faced kid,
    Who broke a window last week.
    Sweet Miss Betty likes to sing off key in the pew behind me.
    That’s what I love about Sunday:
    Sing along as the choir sways;
    Every verse of Amazin’ Grace,
    An’ then we shake the Preacher’s hand.
    Go home, into your blue jeans;
    Have some chicken an’ some baked beans.
    Pick a back yard football team,
    Nothin’ much of anything:
    That’s what I love about Sunday.
    I stroll to the end of the drive,
    Pick up the Sunday Times, grab my coffee cup.
    It looks like Sally an’ Ron, finally tied the knot,
    Well, it’s about time.
    It’s 35 cents off a ground round,
    Baby. cut that coupon out!
    That’s what I love about Sunday:
    Cat-napping on the porch swing;
    You curled up next to me,
    The smell of jasmine wakes us up.
    Take a walk down a back road,
    Tackle box and a cane pole;
    Carve our names in that white oak,
    An’ steal a kiss as the sun fades,
    That’s what I love about Sunday,
    Oh, yeah.
    Ooh, new believers gettin’ baptized,
    Momma’s hands raised up high,
    Havin’ a Hallelujah good time
    A smile on everybody’s face.
    That’s what I love about Sunday,
    Oh, yeah.
    That’s what I love about Sunday,
    Oh, yeah.

    Austin

    My Closet- Black Clouds and Red Mist

    My Closet With Black Clouds and Red Mist-Wednesday, September 27, 2006-4:44PM

    When I was a kid the mother use to say that if you couldn’t find me just start looking in the closets. I hung out in them all the time. I’d face the wall and pretend I was the only person in the world. In my head I could see myself standing on a hill, at the very top, looking up at the sky with my hands dangling lifelessly at my side. I listened intently to hear God’s voice. I expected to hear him at any time, to hear him tell me he’s coming after me and that everything would be okay. I’d stand there on that hill and wait and hope I’d hear his voice before I heard the mothers. I use to think, I guess I still do, but when I was a kid I thought the greatest thing in the world would be to have a hug from God. I could feel it too. I could feel him scoop me up and put my head on his shoulder and tell me everything would be okay because he is here now and he’s taking me with him. I’d lay my head on his shoulder and hold on tight and we’d leave the field together. That’s why I went into that closet everyday, cause I hoped he’d come and get me and take me away from her.

    I expect his voice to be deep but not deep like the sound of thunder. I’d expect his embrace to be strong but not like fear on my heart when I heard my mothers voice call instead of his. I just wanted to leave there. It doesn’t seem like I have. Dr. B keeps telling me it’s over now I don’t have to be afraid anymore but I am. I’m scared to death! And I’m pissed! I’m pissed that when I go to sleep she’s going to be there and it doesn’t seem like I can do anything at all about it.

    I’ve wanted to cut more than once this week. I haven’t done it but came awful damn close. I wanted to exit this place. I didn’t even come close. That thought left as quickly as it came. I feel like a whore. I feel ashamed of that and that makes me mad too that she comes over here for the sole purpose of getting laid…and to have her laundry done. I mean hell, she might as well have clean clothes when she leaves. I don’t like the way she talks to me. I don’t like it at all. It reminds me of my uncle when he called me his little whore. It makes me want to strangle the bitch. She hasn’t called me that but she talks to me that way. Her picture is in a frame but I keep it face down until she comes over. Then I sit it up. When she leaves I put it right back down. I want to know where the strong Aussie is. I’d like to have her back.

    Part of me sleeps with her because it hurts me. I know it’s damaging and it feels like self destruction. It’s like cutting without the blades. I’m re-creating this whole mother relationship, like maybe doing all this over again is going to make the past turn out differently. I’m working like a damn dog, cleaning her house, doing her laundry, giving her massages, cooking her damn meals and hoping somehow that I’m going to feel worthwhile. But then there’s the self destructive aspect of it where I sleep with her at times because I know it’s the exact opposite of what I should be doing. Lord, talk about working against oneself. I hate her in so many ways, I hate me in so many ways. I want to be the “good girl” yet I want to hurt me too and make sure I say the “bad girl.” It’s this whole tug of war thing going on. Hell, I think I just wrote the newest version of the book I hate you don’t leave me only now it’s I hate you I can’t leave you.

     

    Anna

    I Let Her Use Me

    Used-Tuesday, September 26, 2006-1:30PM

    I’ve said it once if I’ve said it a hundred times, I have the strength to tell people to go to hell if they have no business on earth with decent people like “myself.” I have the ability to, as you say, “open a can of whoop ass” and protect myself BUT when it comes to sex I am not able to be as assertive. Hell, I’m downright passive and almost frozen stiff when someone is inappropriate sexually. It has been two years since being sexually assaulted in my own home. When I lived at the old place I was date raped which is part of the reason things soured so quickly where I was…I mean you know the crackheads, the drunks, the crime level and the terminal mental illness combined could break even Mother Theresa’s spirit but toss in cat size roaches and then a sexual assault and you’d test the faith of the most respected of saints.

    That was just lovely, going to the Center for Hope, having the exam done with those damn pictures. Shit I thought that was only on CSI that they did stuff like that. At least they didn’t make me write anything down. She took the report and I signed it. I don’t know how long I was there but gracious it seemed like three years. I’ve been back there several times, one floor below where it happened. I’m not certain why I go back there except that on a certain level I feel nothing and remember nothing until a few days later when it hits me like a ton of bricks. I swear I’ll never return to that building but that information doesn’t filter down to us all so we find ourselves there repeatedly just to come back to our safe home to crumble inside. That happens only a few days later, like some sort of delayed reaction or something.

    You know, I never should have slept with Blossom. I almost hate her now. I know she comes over here for the sole purpose of getting laid. As gross as it sounds it seems like I can smell her all over this damn house. Of course I can’t but it feels like I can. When she sits beside me I think I can smell her. When she hugs me I think I can smell her and man does it turn my stomach. I use to call her Slave Girl in my journal but I think the tables have turned seeing as how I’m doing her damn laundry, cleaner her damn house, her damn cat liter box, supporting her emotionally AND servicing her. This is bullshit. So, who’s the Slave Girl now? My goodness! The day she fuckin hit me with her car I’d rearranged her furniture for her, cleaned her house, made sure she had fresh sheets on her bed, cleaned her litter box, gave her a back and ear massage with oils and put her stupid ass to bed. What the fuck!!!! Do you know I all but left a fuckin mint on her pillow? What is this, hell where is Austin cause we really need her right now. We need some backbone with this girl. I think we might have given it all to her so she could use it and leave us spineless and in servitude. Man, the woman comes here for the sole purpose of getting her laundry done and getting done. What the fuck????? And I’m doing it, that’s what makes me so damn angry. I’m doing it.

    In our last session I said she hadn’t been around as much. She hadn’t been because all her clothes were clean and evidently she wasn’t in the mood for any so I didn’t hear from her for a few days at a time. If I say something in opposition to what she wants I get the fuckin tears going. Right now I am pissed beyond belief. She’s sitting up in therapy right now trying to fuckin heal but I’ll tell you one thing she’s gotta realize that she’s a fuckin user and that no amount of therapy can change immoral to moral.

    Her Dad has less than 3 weeks to live. She said she wanted to get calling cards to call him. I told her I get mine from the dollar store. One buck for 35 min is a steal so she got 7 of them. I hear her complain about not having the time to call her dying father but that time is eaten up by taking so-called friends to the store at $20 to $40 per trip. She does this two or three times a week to the same person. I told her that’s not a friend that’s a client. You can’t tell me you charge a friend that kind of money to run them to the store. You don’t take that kind of money from a friend then let them pay for dinner at very nice restaurants instead of going Dutch treat. I told her, he’s a client, not a friend so please stop saying that. I told her it was just wrong to do that to that man. Her response was, he can afford it. Ah, well, guess what? He can go to hell too because you’ve already told me he molested his daughter and that’s why his wife divorced his ass. So, uh, you’re hanging with a fuckin pedophile!

    Where is my head Dr. B? I want it back. I seem to be able to say no to a hell of a lot of stuff but when it comes to relationships that include sex my inner strength is no where to be found. This is stupid and it’s not helping me move forward at all. So clearly I have some decisions to make.

    When she was with Monkey Boy Crackhead King of Bastards she would come over here and I’d give her pep talks and she’d go right back to him. I was wasting my breath and enabling her. She got a little bit of strength from me and a few other friends, just enough strength to walk back to him and have bled out of her. I told her that I would no longer respond to her with support when it came to him because I was enabling her. So here is what I’ve decided to do on the journal. When I write stuff like this I’m disabling the comment section because I know for certain that I’d get a flood of uplifting and supportive yet enabling comments. I mean heck, it’s clear what I should do. I just haven’t done it. I have no idea where my strength goes when she appears but it goes somewhere. I want it back!

    Me or someone like me

    *comments have been disabled on this entry*

    This Is Not My Day

    This Is Not My Day

    The conversation went something like this:

    Blossom- This isn’t your day is it?

    Aussie- It wouldn’t have anything to do with you hitting me with your car would it?

    Blossom- I said I was sorry.

    Well excuse me for bleeding! It was just like with when I got hit by my own truck that one time. We were even on the same street, East Street, just the opposite side. Her car should have been euthanized several years ago but since it wasn’t the old Chevrolet has tried to kill itself. She insists upon resuscitating it. At first it was just the rust, the lack of paint (you have to have paint for it to be a bad paint job) and the ever changing bad odor that I would complain about. We’ve added several things to that “should have been put down” along time ago list.

    1. only the back windows roll down and they go down half way
    2. The passenger side window is covered with plastic. That plastic has holes that have been patched with duct tape. She has so many duct tape violations on that car, just improper use of duct tape alone could get her license revoked.
    3. there is no heat
    4. and she has a broken head gasket

    LET THAT CAR DIE, IT’S THE RIGHT THING TO DO.

    The car still runs this way but today it took a turn for the worse. It lost the ability to go in reverse so if she pulls into a parking space she has to be able to pull forward instead of back out. Well, she failed to do this. I get out to push the stupid car back so she could pull up. She sat behind the wheel to steer so as not to hit other cars. Well, when I tried to get back in the car the car rolled forward. I was doing that hop skip type thing with one leg in the car yelling for her to stop driving. She said, I’m sorry. I forgot to take it out of neutral.” When the car stopped I got hit with the open passenger door. Of course she started getting upset because she didn’t put the car in the right gear. Well, hell she should have been. Clearly she is not here right now.

    So, I come home and I’m about ready to crash (on my doggie bed) but when I walked in the room where it is it seems one of the cats decided it would best serve as a litter box. So, instead of screaming and cussing I walked out of the room to catch my breath. When I walked back in there was a new spot on the human bed. It wasn’t there when I walked out a moment ago. So I stripped everything and threw it in the washer. I didn’t give it a chance to set. I put both cats in the room with their box because I wasn’t sure which one did it, they were both in there at the same time. Later I figured that it might have been Bella because she was left home with Gracie all night long. It’s the first time I’ve spent the night out and came home the next morning so she might have been a bit anxious and uneasy about that. The thing is, she cried for a long time before it happened. So, I washed everything and laid on the love seat to crash. Officer Mc Bastard called to tell me he was back at work after having been hurt on the job a week ago. He took 27 stitches after being struck by something hanging off the side of a golf cart at the Irish Festival. Okay so I hung up and went to sleep. (I call him Mic or Mic the dick and Mc Bastard because in high school he wanted to be Mickey from The Monkeys. His friends have never let him live it down. He is Irish but that is NOT why I call him Mic.)

    I was hoping to go into therapy without some sort of drama this week but that’s not going to happen. Last week was the pit bull incident this week is the Chevy incident. Dear Lord, I say this week but it’s only Monday.

    I’m going back to the love seat.

    Austin