Comments on: My Closet- Black Clouds and Red Mist http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2006/09/27/my-closet-black-clouds-and-red-mist-2/ Sundrip Journals Sun, 12 Feb 2012 09:44:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: beautifuldreamer http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2006/09/27/my-closet-black-clouds-and-red-mist-2/comment-page-1/#comment-661 beautifuldreamer Thu, 28 Sep 2006 14:04:33 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2006/09/27/my-closet-black-clouds-and-red-mist-2/#comment-661 "It's like cutting without the blades..." That's pretty profound. Intellectually you've made the connection between the desire to hurt (punish?) yourself by cutting, but instead the cutting manifests itself within the unbalance of this relationship. Emotionally, you need to cut. Need to feel bad about yourself, maybe. Need to work yourself to a frazzle and have your efforts go unappreciated, because that was the dynamics you lived with during your childhood. We all do this, or have done this, to some extent. It's an old old story, unfortunately. That drive to recreate the tumult of those childhood years when, at the very least, our needs weren't being met or, at the very worst, we were outright abused. We need to put ourselves back there so that maybe, just maybe, we can do something different this time which will bring about different results. (The main desired result of being loved, cherished, appreciated, protected.) I would be interested in knowing what motivates Blossom to stay in this relationship. What is she getting out of it besides clean laundry and massages? She must be attempting to recreate her own little childhood scenario where this time she gets to be the one in control. Relationships are so convoluted! The strong Aussie is still there. She hasn't left the building, but maybe she's taking a much needed long snooze. “It’s like cutting without the blades…” That’s pretty profound. Intellectually you’ve made the connection between the desire to hurt (punish?) yourself by cutting, but instead the cutting manifests itself within the unbalance of this relationship. Emotionally, you need to cut. Need to feel bad about yourself, maybe. Need to work yourself to a frazzle and have your efforts go unappreciated, because that was the dynamics you lived with during your childhood.

We all do this, or have done this, to some extent. It’s an old old story, unfortunately. That drive to recreate the tumult of those childhood years when, at the very least, our needs weren’t being met or, at the very worst, we were outright abused. We need to put ourselves back there so that maybe, just maybe, we can do something different this time which will bring about different results. (The main desired result of being loved, cherished, appreciated, protected.)

I would be interested in knowing what motivates Blossom to stay in this relationship. What is she getting out of it besides clean laundry and massages? She must be attempting to recreate her own little childhood scenario where this time she gets to be the one in control.

Relationships are so convoluted! The strong Aussie is still there. She hasn’t left the building, but maybe she’s taking a much needed long snooze.

]]> By: keepers http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2006/09/27/my-closet-black-clouds-and-red-mist-2/comment-page-1/#comment-660 keepers Thu, 28 Sep 2006 00:12:39 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2006/09/27/my-closet-black-clouds-and-red-mist-2/#comment-660 Catch-22 time right? part of you wants one thing another part something else, usually the two sides leave those in the middle bobbing back and forth crying out for relief!!! you want to tell her (or the other her)to leave you alone. but you can't tell her or is it her? how you feel. been there a bunch of times, feel for you hang on, proud of you keepers Catch-22 time right? part of you wants one thing another part something else, usually the two sides leave those in the middle bobbing back and forth crying out for relief!!! you want to tell her (or the other her)to leave you alone. but you can’t tell her or is it her? how you feel. been there a bunch of times, feel for you

hang on, proud of you

keepers

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