Comments on: On A Cloudy Day In A World Of Transference P1of2

By: Cheesemeister

Cheesemeister — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 12:13:41 +0000

I don’t get close to people because I fear this kind of thing happening. It’s happened in the past and it really hurts. I let people know that I like and respect them and I hope that nobody hates me for keeping everyone, even people I like, at arm’s length. It can be kind of lonely but I have gotten really tired of fearing someone suddenly hating me.

By: marj aka thriver

marj aka thriver — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 23:17:46 +0000

I’m glad you got this out in the open as well. And I think you did a good job “using I statements” and all that. It’s good to state how you feel. As children, we weren’t allowed feelings…that has to change if we are to heal.

By: Susie

Susie — Sat, 10 Nov 2007 19:05:25 +0000

Hi, Austin. I’m not sure I’ve commented here before. I have visited, though. I don’t know all the particulars of what you’re writing about in these last couple of posts, and don’t know the other party at all. But I am sorry for the pain this is obviously causing you. And I do from experience how very distressing it can be to have formed what we believed was a close relationship online, only to have the other person behave in entirely unexpected, hurtful ways. And your words in the previous post about being “erased” from someone’s life really touched me. I’ve had that, too with an online relationship. I can only say that time helps. I’m not sure it heals entirely, but it helps. Hold tightly to what you know for sure is real. Peace be with you.