Comments on: “You’re Strong” http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/01/24/youre-strong/ Sundrip Journals Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:56:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Cheesemeister http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/01/24/youre-strong/#comment-2561 Cheesemeister Sat, 26 Jan 2008 00:52:04 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/01/24/youre-strong/#comment-2561 I don't think he means it that way but I'd worry too if a shrink said they worried about me, that what they meant is "I'm going to have you locked up, nutso." I too wonder when people say "you're strong." What they usually seem to mean, at least in my case is "I don't want to help you deal with this. Let's sweep it under the rug." I've learned to keep most of my shit to myself. Since I have to be "strong" all the time anyway. Your therapist sounds like a good guy. That's great, especially after that last idiot you had to deal with. I don’t think he means it that way but I’d worry too if a shrink said they worried about me, that what they meant is “I’m going to have you locked up, nutso.”
I too wonder when people say “you’re strong.” What they usually seem to mean, at least in my case is “I don’t want to help you deal with this. Let’s sweep it under the rug.”
I’ve learned to keep most of my shit to myself. Since I have to be “strong” all the time anyway.
Your therapist sounds like a good guy. That’s great, especially after that last idiot you had to deal with.

]]> By: Beauty http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/01/24/youre-strong/#comment-2559 Beauty Fri, 25 Jan 2008 14:55:29 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/01/24/youre-strong/#comment-2559 I hope you do walk that path again. We all need something to look forward to, something beyond the ordinary every day doldrums of simply attempting to hold on, to make it through just one more day. You are strong, but that doesn't mean you've no limits of what you can handle on your own, or that you're never weak as well. I think it requires a certain kind of strength to be able to acknowledge that you can't do everything on your own, that you need help sometimes. We all need a "soft place to fall" when we grow weary of the constant effort to survive. Your therapist seems like someone who may understand that. I'm glad you have his guidance. I hope you do walk that path again. We all need something to look forward to, something beyond the ordinary every day doldrums of simply attempting to hold on, to make it through just one more day.

You are strong, but that doesn’t mean you’ve no limits of what you can handle on your own, or that you’re never weak as well. I think it requires a certain kind of strength to be able to acknowledge that you can’t do everything on your own, that you need help sometimes.

We all need a “soft place to fall” when we grow weary of the constant effort to survive.

Your therapist seems like someone who may understand that. I’m glad you have his guidance.

]]> By: Paula J http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/01/24/youre-strong/#comment-2558 Paula J Fri, 25 Jan 2008 14:08:07 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/01/24/youre-strong/#comment-2558 When I say that someone is strong it is usually because I am concerned about that person. But I also recognize that something within has kept them. I refer to that something as strength and I encourage that person to tap into that. Sometimes survivors may not recognize that there is something that they possess that helps them to survive. This "something" is there during the after hours when the therapist has left for the day and friends aren't available. When I say to someone, you are strong, it does not mean that I think they can handle anything. It does mean that I am concerned but I see a source of strength that hopefully they can continue to tap into. Does this make sense? When I say that someone is strong it is usually because I am concerned about that person. But I also recognize that something within has kept them. I refer to that something as strength and I encourage that person to tap into that. Sometimes survivors may not recognize that there is something that they possess that helps them to survive. This “something” is there during the after hours when the therapist has left for the day and friends aren’t available. When I say to someone, you are strong, it does not mean that I think they can handle anything. It does mean that I am concerned but I see a source of strength that hopefully they can continue to tap into. Does this make sense?

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