Processing things out:
I’m feeling unsafe because it feels like you’re not just bringing a stranger to my home you’re also sharing information with him about me that he doesn’t need to know. I’m feeling unsafe because we’re dealing with boundary issues again, issues of you not knowing what is appropriate to pass along and what is not. We have a history together and we shared personal things, little did I know when our time together ended (and ended badly I must say) that you’d continue to pass along information with little regard to confidentiality. Does this complete stranger need to know what my issues are? Does he really need to read my blog or send me emails? Who told you to pass along that information?
When you come here today it’s so you can give me my damn money. I’m sorry you feel like you’re settling. That to me makes little sense. Even though you felt like you were settling you refused to accept the already low price. You’re not happy with the final asking price because it’s too low for an item you’re “settling for”. I’m confused, thoroughly confused. But really, the only thing I need to make sense out of is 3 green bills. I have a car to fix. I just want my damn money. I’ll let you make sense out of the rest. I’m not pleased with this but here take $10 more for my dissatisfaction. Okay, if you insist.
Our limited contact has been beautiful. The less we talk on the phone the better cause you still drive me crazy. You still get on my very last nerve and you’re still out of your frikin mind. All I want is my damn money without the hassle of a complete stranger sitting down for cookies and coffee. I think you’ve forgotten that things between us will never be the same. I think your mind has reverted back to the old us where you come here and we sit and chat like nothing’s wrong. Things have changed. Some things I’ve forgiven others I can not forget. I do not understand you. I don’t understand your thinking process or why you do some of what you do. I’m totally thrown. What I do know is I’m feeling unsafe because my boundaries have been again compromised. So now I need to call you and tell you your stranger friend can’t just come over and hang out just because you invited him. I understand he’s your ride but that’s an arrangement between you and him having nothing at all to do with me.
Hey, come on over to Austin’s house for cookies and coffee. WHAT??? Passive aggression would have me bake hard, nasty burnt cookies and serve them with weak coffee but no, I won’t do that. Passive aggressive behaviors would have me greet you at the door with my unwashed body in PJ’s w/ my floral shower cap and big red fuzzy slippers while smoking a cig with unbrushed teeth. Here have a cookie, cough, cough, hack, hack. But no, I’m in the healing process. I’m beyond such behaviors. You’ll have to look him in the eye and tell him you jumped the gun on this one. This is my home, my safety zone. I don’t let anyone and everyone walk through my door. This is mine. I need to draw the line…as well as take a shower and brush my teeth before y’alls stupid asses get here. He can drop you off but he’s not staying… final word…he’s not staying.
Now that all my borderline comments and sarcasm has been released I think I’ll be able to talk to her reasonably.
Safety Zone
Saturday, February 16, 2008, 9:45 am
I don’T see anything borderline in this post! Sarcastic, perhaps…borderline, nope. It all sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Boundaries are important and yours are getting stepped on here.
i dont see anything unreasonable in theis post. i agree with fallen angels, its not borderline either. just sarcastic, and perfectly reasonable. personally, i think you should tell her just like you wrote in this post. at least thats what i would do. not agressively, but directly and bluntly.
ps … did i tell you thank you for the kind comment concerning sammy? im serious. it was more of a reaction to the news of her passing, but it was heartfelt and sincere. i almost hated to tell you, since you think of her often. anyway, it was sweet of you to share your honest response. thank you.
i really love the picture! lmao! thats great
kïrstin♫