Comments on: Murder – Suicide: Domestic Violence http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/03/06/murder-suicide-domestic-violence/ Sundrip Journals Fri, 21 Nov 2008 13:35:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Austin http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/03/06/murder-suicide-domestic-violence/#comment-4039 Austin Tue, 22 Jul 2008 05:37:06 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=1404#comment-4039 Hi Chesley, I personally believe that it has to be stopped before it starts, once a person becomes a physical abuser do they really need anger management courses? Is that the problem or is the problem deeper than that? I think for a small few therapy could help but what I know of abusers is that they abuse without conscience. It takes too much thought to hurt another human being routinely. How do you go to therapy to remove that type of reason? For many it would take simply not acting, that's what I think. Can they be trained to <em>think</em> that they should not beat others? I don't think so, not most of them anyway. But can they be convinced that if they do they'll suffer for it? Yup. But if you manage to get to men and women BEFORE they strike and before they abuse then we skip the part where their victims heal and get right to them realizing they can't live free and hit. I just don't know if you can change someone who is willing to strike another human being repeatedly and humiliate them repeatedly. I just don't know that anger management programs will help the vast majority of them. The heart has to change, it has to go to the heart not the head. Thank you for commenting, Austin Hi Chesley,

I personally believe that it has to be stopped before it starts, once a person becomes a physical abuser do they really need anger management courses? Is that the problem or is the problem deeper than that? I think for a small few therapy could help but what I know of abusers is that they abuse without conscience. It takes too much thought to hurt another human being routinely. How do you go to therapy to remove that type of reason? For many it would take simply not acting, that’s what I think. Can they be trained to think that they should not beat others? I don’t think so, not most of them anyway. But can they be convinced that if they do they’ll suffer for it? Yup. But if you manage to get to men and women BEFORE they strike and before they abuse then we skip the part where their victims heal and get right to them realizing they can’t live free and hit. I just don’t know if you can change someone who is willing to strike another human being repeatedly and humiliate them repeatedly. I just don’t know that anger management programs will help the vast majority of them. The heart has to change, it has to go to the heart not the head.
Thank you for commenting,
Austin

]]> By: chesley http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/03/06/murder-suicide-domestic-violence/#comment-3986 chesley Thu, 17 Jul 2008 02:57:52 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=1404#comment-3986 I have been researching domestic violence for an article I am writing for a newletter. I was a victim of domestic emotional abuse when I was married so remember what that was like. I was never physically abused but the emotional abuse was just as debilitating in terms of my self esteem. What has struck me is the fact that there is not mucy out there for offenders to do to get treatment to change their behavior. Do you think it is because they don't want it so there isn't a market for it or is it that no one wants to work with them? Or, is it a futile effort? I have been researching domestic violence for an article I am writing for a newletter. I was a victim of domestic emotional abuse when I was married so remember what that was like. I was never physically abused but the emotional abuse was just as debilitating in terms of my self esteem. What has struck me is the fact that there is not mucy out there for offenders to do to get treatment to change their behavior. Do you think it is because they don’t want it so there isn’t a market for it or is it that no one wants to work with them? Or, is it a futile effort?

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