Comments on: A Million Pieces http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/04/30/a-million-pieces/ For hope and healing Thu, 21 Aug 2008 22:57:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Enola http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/04/30/a-million-pieces/#comment-3263 Enola Thu, 01 May 2008 12:14:42 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=1429#comment-3263 Like Beauty, I've not experienced this with my sister. However, it was very difficult to let go of the "wonder mom" and "wonder dad" expectations I had. I kept thinking they would morph into these fabulous parents. LIke Beauty said, there was a time of morning. That stunk. But it's better on the other end. Like Beauty, I’ve not experienced this with my sister. However, it was very difficult to let go of the “wonder mom” and “wonder dad” expectations I had. I kept thinking they would morph into these fabulous parents.

LIke Beauty said, there was a time of morning. That stunk. But it’s better on the other end.

]]> By: beauty http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/04/30/a-million-pieces/#comment-3261 beauty Thu, 01 May 2008 04:46:05 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=1429#comment-3261 I haven't experienced this with my own sister, but I have with my mother: the shattering of the image I once had of her, the sudden gut wrenching shock of seeing for the first time who she really is. It's hard to see past our own desires for the individual to be who we need them to be; hard to admit that they were never that good or noble or even, in many ways, human. No wonder you've been shut down! A shock, the beginnings, perhaps, of grieving for what you've lost--or never really had to begin with. I know this terrain well and there is nothing I can say to make your rugged journey through it any easier. I can say only this, that I know it well. I haven’t experienced this with my own sister, but I have with my mother: the shattering of the image I once had of her, the sudden gut wrenching shock of seeing for the first time who she really is.

It’s hard to see past our own desires for the individual to be who we need them to be; hard to admit that they were never that good or noble or even, in many ways, human.

No wonder you’ve been shut down! A shock, the beginnings, perhaps, of grieving for what you’ve lost–or never really had to begin with. I know this terrain well and there is nothing I can say to make your rugged journey through it any easier. I can say only this, that I know it well.

]]> By: cheesemeister http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2008/04/30/a-million-pieces/#comment-3260 cheesemeister Thu, 01 May 2008 02:34:31 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=1429#comment-3260 Hi Austin, Joan and all Sorry I hadn't visited in awhile. Some health problems and being busy. I hope you're all doing ok. Hi Austin, Joan and all
Sorry I hadn’t visited in awhile. Some health problems and being busy. I hope you’re all doing ok.

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