The People Behind My Eyes

The idea behind dream therapy is to re-write a dream so that it ends the way you want it to. This is to give the dreamer a feeling of control. In some dreams I needed to re-write it so that I was the victor and not the victim but in this case I need to re-write the dream so that events unfold in a way I can accept without emotional burden.

The dream would start off exactly how it did, with my brother using the restroom on the wall of the department store by the parking lot. I’d reach over to him and ask if he wanted to go inside the store to use the restroom. He pulls away from me and runs into the street. A family in their van jump out, snatch my brother up and begin scolding and mocking him for having BM on his shirt. I remove my brother from their arms and call out for the police. There’s no way they can put their hands on this child and hold him up for the world to scorn and not answer for it. No words I can say will do, I need to call the police. The police show up and I make a formal report that this so-called mother put their hands on my brother. She’s furious that I’ve called the police but not apologetic. She doesn’t understand why I’m making such a big deal out of this. I tell her it’s because no one should be treated the way she just treated my brother and that she has no right at all to ever put her hands on him. I told her someone other than you and I need to know this happened. The children in the car sit wide eyed, confused, not sure why I care so much about a toddler. They’re confused as to what will happen to their mother. I say nothing at all to them. I didn’t yell or scream, act out in any way. I just showed them what compassion is and how to treat another human being and how to bring yet another to the table to answer for their behavior. I showed them even their mother had to answer for her behavior.

By the time all of this takes place my brother is in serious need of a bath. We go home to a warm, clean restroom where I wash him. I toss a little toy in the water with him, wash his hair and his face. We chat about nothing at all then he asks me in his three year old language about the mean lady. I tell him she’s being taken care of and that he would not have to see her again, ever.

Commentary: I chose to let the incident happen so that I could rescue my brother and so that I could make a point to the other children that their mother is not above the law and if they ever needed to they could have her answer for her behaviors against them. I chose to let the incident happen so I could be nurturing to my brother the way I should have been nurtured when feeling hurt. And I chose to let it happen so that those other children could know what they might be going through isn’t normal and that adults can be kind and caring. I wanted to set an example, gain what I was not ever given and feel like maybe I could rescue the little boy (who more than likely is me) from a world that just doesn’t care.

Feelings after the re-write: satisfied

Austin

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