Comments on: Dreams of Blame and Guilt http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/14/dreams-of-blame-and-guilt/ Sundrip Journals Sun, 12 Feb 2012 09:44:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Enola http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/14/dreams-of-blame-and-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-6886 Enola Sun, 14 Jun 2009 23:26:17 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=4550#comment-6886 I have an evil streak - I'd be tampering with her stuff. Moving a path to the fridge for sure. Have you ever seen the movie "grumpy old men"? I'd be hiding some old anchovies or fish in her boxes. Better yet, sew some in the hems of her drapes. She'll take the smell to her new home. I don't typically every DO These things. But I do enjoy contemplating them! I have an evil streak – I’d be tampering with her stuff. Moving a path to the fridge for sure. Have you ever seen the movie “grumpy old men”? I’d be hiding some old anchovies or fish in her boxes. Better yet, sew some in the hems of her drapes. She’ll take the smell to her new home. I don’t typically every DO These things. But I do enjoy contemplating them!

]]> By: Austin http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/14/dreams-of-blame-and-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-6882 Austin Sun, 14 Jun 2009 17:24:35 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=4550#comment-6882 No, he doesn't know yet. I haven't told him because I don't have a place yet and I don't know when I will. I'm looking but I haven't secured anything yet. Although I worry about living alone I don't think I'll be able to do the roommate situation again. I certainly can't live with another female. Lord have mercy talk about being triggered all the time. I'd spill anger all over the place. It would be transference and flashback city big time. That would not be good. (sigh) Austin No, he doesn’t know yet. I haven’t told him because I don’t have a place yet and I don’t know when I will. I’m looking but I haven’t secured anything yet.

Although I worry about living alone I don’t think I’ll be able to do the roommate situation again. I certainly can’t live with another female. Lord have mercy talk about being triggered all the time. I’d spill anger all over the place. It would be transference and flashback city big time. That would not be good. (sigh)

Austin

]]> By: beauty http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/14/dreams-of-blame-and-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-6881 beauty Sun, 14 Jun 2009 14:45:42 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=4550#comment-6881 I just read the comment you left on my latest blog post . . . something about how easy it is for us survivors to blame ourselves for everything. Of course the fact is, you didn't do anything wrong to cause the trouble between you and Princess. On some level you know this, but when you're being triggered right and left it's hard to keep that in mind. It's common in people who had abusive childhoods to spend their adulthood attempting to "fix" the past. We can't do it, though, none of us can. I've certainly tried my best in so many dysfunctional relationships and situations. It just can't be done. And yet . . . at times I still think that if only I hadn't done this or that, things would have turned out with a happy ever after ending. I hadn't realized that Princess and her hubby moved out. That must be a huge relief; still, you're left with dealing with the aftermath from her behaviour. Does Fife know yet that you intend to move? I just read the comment you left on my latest blog post . . . something about how easy it is for us survivors to blame ourselves for everything.

Of course the fact is, you didn’t do anything wrong to cause the trouble between you and Princess. On some level you know this, but when you’re being triggered right and left it’s hard to keep that in mind.

It’s common in people who had abusive childhoods to spend their adulthood attempting to “fix” the past. We can’t do it, though, none of us can. I’ve certainly tried my best in so many dysfunctional relationships and situations. It just can’t be done. And yet . . . at times I still think that if only I hadn’t done this or that, things would have turned out with a happy ever after ending.

I hadn’t realized that Princess and her hubby moved out. That must be a huge relief; still, you’re left with dealing with the aftermath from her behaviour. Does Fife know yet that you intend to move?

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