Comments on: When She’s Dead and Buried http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/30/when-shes-dead-and-buried/ Sundrip Journals Sun, 12 Feb 2012 09:44:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kate http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/30/when-shes-dead-and-buried/comment-page-1/#comment-6975 Kate Fri, 10 Jul 2009 04:39:51 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=4659#comment-6975 Hi, It sounds as though the people who are trying to convince you are uncomfortable with what you are having to deal with in your life due to child abuse. Sometimes the suggestions and assumptions they make are really off. Their assumption is that someone can be talked out of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and hypervigilance. I don't think that anyone has been. If we could be talked out of it then we all would have been healed long, long ago. If we could be talked out of this therapists would have all cured us of our issues. Sadly, it isn't that easy. My mother sexually and physically abused me and she has been dead ten years. I am still hypervigilant. There is always another abuser to fear. Good and healing thoughts to you. Kate Hi,

It sounds as though the people who are trying to convince you are uncomfortable with what you are having to deal with in your life due to child abuse. Sometimes the suggestions and assumptions they make are really off. Their assumption is that someone can be talked out of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and hypervigilance. I don’t think that anyone has been. If we could be talked out of it then we all would have been healed long, long ago. If we could be talked out of this therapists would have all cured us of our issues. Sadly, it isn’t that easy.

My mother sexually and physically abused me and she has been dead ten years. I am still hypervigilant. There is always another abuser to fear.

Good and healing thoughts to you.

Kate

]]> By: beauty http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/30/when-shes-dead-and-buried/comment-page-1/#comment-6956 beauty Wed, 01 Jul 2009 15:03:57 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=4659#comment-6956 I too am waiting for my mother to die, so I can mourn what I never got from her. How terrible that your mother thought nothing of changing your name at will. I was stricken when I was forced to go by my abuser's last name--it was a shameful thing to be associated with him in that way. I know why you don't feel safe, I understand your need for hyper-vigilance. I too am waiting for my mother to die, so I can mourn what I never got from her.

How terrible that your mother thought nothing of changing your name at will. I was stricken when I was forced to go by my abuser’s last name–it was a shameful thing to be associated with him in that way.

I know why you don’t feel safe, I understand your need for hyper-vigilance.

]]> By: Ethereal Highway http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/30/when-shes-dead-and-buried/comment-page-1/#comment-6952 Ethereal Highway Wed, 01 Jul 2009 03:53:44 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=4659#comment-6952 My father is dead. It hasn't helped. My father is dead. It hasn’t helped.

]]> By: Paul http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/30/when-shes-dead-and-buried/comment-page-1/#comment-6951 Paul Wed, 01 Jul 2009 02:38:05 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=4659#comment-6951 I don't know your particular circumstance. I had huge trouble with this. My therapist helps me "reality check". My abuser lives in another state. The chances of us bumping into each other is remote. So, I don't worry about it. I don’t know your particular circumstance. I had huge trouble with this. My therapist helps me “reality check”. My abuser lives in another state. The chances of us bumping into each other is remote. So, I don’t worry about it.

]]> By: tricia http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/06/30/when-shes-dead-and-buried/comment-page-1/#comment-6950 tricia Tue, 30 Jun 2009 22:45:43 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=4659#comment-6950 I wish you could have that peace also. I wish you could have that peace also.

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