Comments on: Daughter of a Sadistic Mother

By: reina

reina — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 08:59:33 +0000

My mother exposed me to daily emotional abuse and terror as a child. Worse, she abused my little brother in front of me and belittled and humiliated us often. I had a boy and with all my internal struggles I protected him from my Mom, the ghetto,and worked on doing everything in my power for him to live in peace and have a happy childhood. He’s a confident, compassionate, content adult today. He always tells me you are the best Mom, and I love you. My mother is a narcissistic sadist, I refused to let my child suffer dysfunction he did see be cry,I’d tell him the truth, and talking was the best tool.

By: Austin

Austin — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 21:54:30 +0000

My worry is passing it down, not through DNA but through conditioning. I know how to be civil. I know how to be nice…it comes naturally but there’s still great fear that what I learned could easily be put into practice if my stress level increased due to family pressures and stuff. I don’t know if that made sense or not. What I’m saying is, I’d rather not take the chance of kicking into what I was taught. It’s safer to heal from it and leave family situations alone. There’s a bit of grief with that but for me it seems worth the loss. Some chances are simply not worth taking.
Also, my mother named me after her mother so you’d better believe I paid for all my grandmother’s sadistic crimes. When we look like others or have their name we often end up paying for their crimes, real or percieved.
Thanks for your comments.
Faith

By: Richard

Richard — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 15:22:31 +0000

My mother used to brandish carving knives and baseball bats at me when I was little, and she felt glad whenever I’d come home from school and tell her the bullies beat me up. I think she was angry at me because I looked like my father. But in the 1970s, that wasn’t considered abuse… it was normal child-rearing. Parents who didn’t beat their kids were considered “soft”.

I’m convinced it ran in my family… my mother grew up watching her 2 uncles resolve their disagreements with punches and insults, and her mother was extremely selfish and had a mental age of 12… even when she was in her 80s, granny acted like a spoiled little kid who shouted threats and cussed when she didn’t get her way.

Like some of you, I chose to break the cycle by never having kids.

By: Austin

Austin — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 05:57:59 +0000

I don’t really know how to respond to this. I wanted to respond but I’m not quite certain how. I read it and of course my heart breaks for you but I’m not sure what else to say.
Sincerely,
Faith

By: MCLDxs

MCLDxs — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 16:11:34 +0000

My mother is a sadist. Not as extreme as yours but nonetheless, a sadist. Im at the point where Im contemplating suicide. Im an adult now, but am still under the power of this dysfunctional person. This is a person who has money and uses it to control every one. She raised me to be dependent on her. Now Im lost and fucked! Not only am I fucked, but have the pleasure to have inherited her depression and anxieties and my fathers side alcoholism. So on top of everything Im an alcoholic. No wonder.

I don’t see myself around much after this summer. I can’t stand the thought of a dark cold winter added to my depression. I hate her for this. I have nothing. Nothing. A father in a distant state who’s wealthy as well as a wealthy mother, two parents who won’t allow their children to inherit some of the good. Just the bad. Fuck them, Im selfish for thinking this and I know its wrong. But I can’t take it anymore.

Maybe sharing some of this will let you see you have it better then me. At least you sound like you found peace. I don’t see any in my future. Goodluck