I’m a people watcher and I’m rather observant, maybe even insightful but when it comes to interpersonal relationships I’m at a total loss. I knew awhile ago that basic human behaviors confuse me when they apply to me but I recognize them for what they are when I see them applied to others. For a long time it annoyed the heck out of me that Blossom use to fix my buttons and straighten my collar. A therapist once told me that women tend to do that, they tend to fuss over their mate that way. I always thought it was because she thought I wasn’t perfect and needed to be fixed. When I saw women in public do that I immediately recognized it as mating behavior, if you will. But when applied to me I saw it differently. It took someone telling me that Blossom was simply doting over me not implying that I’m imperfect. How did I get that message so screwed up? Because I was in the equation and I see myself in a different light and figure others see me in the same filthy light.
In a conversation with MeMe I had my first hint that giving Junior back rubs isn’t normal platonic behavior. Then I was kind of curious so I brought it up with Birdie who had a “okay then” type response. So today in therapy I mentioned it to Dr. D who responded with raised eyebrows. Normal people may say, Okay Faith that’s obviously NOT typical platonic behavior of two people that live together. Please remember I’m not normal when it comes to boundaries. After talking to these three individuals it occurred to me that I’m giving a message I don’t intend to give. He asks and I do it, period. It took me looking in from the outside to see it clearly. I even had to think of two different people because once you toss me in the equation everything gets fuzzy.
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