Comments on: Broken Pieces http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/12/22/broken-pieces/ Sundrip Journals Mon, 06 Feb 2012 19:42:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Austin http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/12/22/broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-8016 Austin Sat, 26 Dec 2009 17:24:32 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=5730#comment-8016 There have been a bunch of different cases that happened outside the US which have kept focus on the subject and allowed for further study, but in general psychology lags behind the advancement of human cruelty. There has continued to be interest, study and training in the syndrome but it may not be publicized or readily available in book form for laymen as is PTSD and other disorders related to trauma. Not all survivors experience symptoms of Stockholm Syndrome because what they experienced doesn't have all the major points to classify it as such. For those of us that are we find it difficult to have our behaviors publicly scrutinized. Why didn't she escape when she had the chance? Why didn't she tell? I would have run. I would have this, that and the other. I lived next door for years why didn't she tell me, etc, etc, etc. Blame is put on the survivor with questions such as this from those who ask not searching for answers but in a condemning sort of way. I would have left. I would have found a way to leave. I would have, etc, etc, gag, gag, shut the fuck up! (That's <b>not</b> directed at you Enola. I'm just ranting right now.) Anyway, for those of us who feel crazy and like something is wrong with us for staying so long and living that way we may find the label comforting. It means we aren't crazy, we responded like others in our situation. Sometimes a label is validation not a division from the rest of society. Austin There have been a bunch of different cases that happened outside the US which have kept focus on the subject and allowed for further study, but in general psychology lags behind the advancement of human cruelty.

There has continued to be interest, study and training in the syndrome but it may not be publicized or readily available in book form for laymen as is PTSD and other disorders related to trauma.

Not all survivors experience symptoms of Stockholm Syndrome because what they experienced doesn’t have all the major points to classify it as such. For those of us that are we find it difficult to have our behaviors publicly scrutinized. Why didn’t she escape when she had the chance? Why didn’t she tell? I would have run. I would have this, that and the other. I lived next door for years why didn’t she tell me, etc, etc, etc.

Blame is put on the survivor with questions such as this from those who ask not searching for answers but in a condemning sort of way.
I would have left.
I would have found a way to leave.
I would have, etc, etc, gag, gag, shut the fuck up! (That’s not directed at you Enola. I’m just ranting right now.)

Anyway, for those of us who feel crazy and like something is wrong with us for staying so long and living that way we may find the label comforting. It means we aren’t crazy, we responded like others in our situation. Sometimes a label is validation not a division from the rest of society.

Austin

]]> By: Enola http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/12/22/broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-8009 Enola Sat, 26 Dec 2009 03:22:44 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=5730#comment-8009 I'm waiting for a new research study of sorts to come out with these latest news stories like Elizabeth (last name escapes me) and the other woman who was found after years of captivity. The Stockholm syndrome idea. I think these new media cases will cause some renewed interest in this area. I hear the "stockholm syndrome" label and while I can understand it intellectually and certainly when it relates to other people, it's hard to relate it to myself. I’m waiting for a new research study of sorts to come out with these latest news stories like Elizabeth (last name escapes me) and the other woman who was found after years of captivity. The Stockholm syndrome idea. I think these new media cases will cause some renewed interest in this area. I hear the “stockholm syndrome” label and while I can understand it intellectually and certainly when it relates to other people, it’s hard to relate it to myself.

]]> By: Austin http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/12/22/broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-7992 Austin Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:12:33 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=5730#comment-7992 The whole identifying with the aggressor thing was focused on during the Holocaust era and has gotten better understanding as time moved on. It is better understood but not better tolerated by those who out of fear could not place the blame where it belonged. Fear of the aggressor is what divides siblings and fellow captives. It's just not safe enough to put blame where it belongs. While it's a very human response it's still not comfortable. It blindsides me when I see how deeply ingrained those ideas are. Thanks for your comment Faith The whole identifying with the aggressor thing was focused on during the Holocaust era and has gotten better understanding as time moved on. It is better understood but not better tolerated by those who out of fear could not place the blame where it belonged. Fear of the aggressor is what divides siblings and fellow captives. It’s just not safe enough to put blame where it belongs. While it’s a very human response it’s still not comfortable. It blindsides me when I see how deeply ingrained those ideas are.

Thanks for your comment
Faith

]]> By: Enola http://www.sundrip.com/journal/2009/12/22/broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-7991 Enola Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:04:07 +0000 http://www.sundrip.com/journal/?p=5730#comment-7991 I wonder how common that dichotomy is in cases of siblings being abused by a parent or parent figure. I see a lot of similarities in my sister and I's reactions to the abuse. We're repaired our relationship but it took some tough years. I wonder how common that dichotomy is in cases of siblings being abused by a parent or parent figure. I see a lot of similarities in my sister and I’s reactions to the abuse. We’re repaired our relationship but it took some tough years.

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