Daily Archive for March 11th, 2010

When Can I Trust That I Am Loved?

Published on March 11, 2010 in Abuse, Anger, Art Therapy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Emotional abuse, Emotions, Letters Home, Love, PTSD and Trust. 5 Comments

I heard so many one line commands about who I shouldn’t trust but you never told me when its okay to trust.

Never trust a man when he tells you he loves you. He just wants to sleep with you.
Never trust anyone who says “trust me.”

When is it okay to believe a man who says “I love you?” Exactly when is it okay to trust at all? Please tell me, how did you summate the trustworthiness of a complete gender into one single sentence?

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Basic Trust

Published on March 11, 2010 in Abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, Emotions, Love, Therapy and Trust. 0 Comments

My therapist and I discussed the theory of Basic Trust as explained by Erik Erikson. Erikson says that a child learns trust from his caregivers. He trusts that when he’s held he won’t be dropped. He trusts when he’s hungry he’ll be fed, comforted when he’s ill and have his needs cared for. This foundation of trust if healthy can lead to a healthy trust and outlook of the world. We take trust lessons from very early on and apply what we’ve learned to the world around us. Dr. D remarked that when my mother violated me she also damaged my Basic Trust which I then took into the world and based everything on these early lessons.

What I took from our conversation was that the earlier we treat our children with care and concern the better. From infancy we start to learn and we take those lessons with us out into the world. I can say with certainty, everything I know about mistrust I learned from my mother.

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