This is a list of entries that I’ve found on other blogs that I thought were really good and helped others to better understand abuse issues. The newest entry will have a larger header than the others. In order to keep this page to a manageable size some of the older entries have simply been archived via Google documents.
BLOG ENTRIES OF NOTE
These people have something to say.
This painting is called Forgiveness. The young woman holds her younger self offering forgiveness for past mistakes. You can see her at this link on Sundrip.com.
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“If I find in myself desires which nothing in this world can satisfy, the only logical explanation is that I was made for another world.” – C.S. Lewis
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Badge of Authenticity and statement
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Family Roles by Kellevision
This is an interesting article about family roles. The role that interested me the most was the one of the “Lost Child.” The article discusses the importance of knowing your family role and how it can affect your life today.
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Fifty Most Common Signs and Symptoms of Stress
Some of these symptoms you’d never think had anything to do with stress like itching or frequent urination but these are in fact signs of stress. Click the above link for more information.
Dissociative Identity Disorder Screening Test
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Shame
Shame is so ingrained in humans, even those not abused, that its like second nature to feel it. When abuse is added to the life of an individual its no longer second but instead becomes our mother tongue.
Six Reasons Why Psychiatric Treatment Has Not Been Pointless
The writer gives reasons for why it is treatment was the right choice for her. She talks about how treatment for Bipolar disorder affected her socially as well as emotionally. This is a really good blog entry. Also of interest is her entry called Ring Your Bells Crazies .
Sometimes the Dragon Wins
This is a post you have to read. My little blurb will not do it justice. The entry talks struggling with our past as if fighting a dragon. She talks about exerting energy wisely towards healing as well as how sometimes losing the battle doesn’t mean we are losing the good fight. This is a must read by the blogger called ~Perfect~
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We go on—because it is the hard thing to do. And we owe ourselves the difficulty. (Nikki Giovanni)
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INSIDE: directed BY Trevor Sands
This video was found on a blog by a woman survivor who calls herself Battle Weary. The video is a very good depiction of the chaos that can go on inside the mind of someone with multiple personality disorder. While it does not portray us all it does give a really good picture of the activity level, the noise level and the preparation taken to deal with the outside world.
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There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope.
Bern Williams
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SURVIVORS RIGHTS
I, the survivor, have the right to pursue happiness in it’s safest and most beneficial forms. I am free to find love, contentment and satisfaction in every day life. I, the survivor, have the right to let go of old tapes and create new ones. I have the right to eat without breaking my back to appease those that might give me food. I have a right to privacy in thought, in spirit and in my home. I have the right to make choices based on morals and values that I adopt as my own. I have the right to use the word “no” even when it offends others. I have the right to a future. I have the right to be an adult. I will not be bound by past obscene names and descriptions that were once used to demean me. I have the right to be treated as an adult, and as an equally respected human being. I have the right to dismiss those who have proven that they cannot accept my reasonable personal boundaries. I have the right to be who I was born to be. I, the survivor, have the right to peace of mind, to a good night’s sleep, to a memory painted with colours and not gray and black. I have the right to justice. I, a survivor, have the right to assert my rights; assertion of rights is what separates a survivor from a victim. I have the right to be a survivor.
Male Survivor of Incest and other Abuses
I am inspired by this individual more than I can say. Scott Abraham’s words are strong, clear, angry, gentle, understanding. This is a well written website by a male survivor of childhood horrors, of rape and of beating. For any male survivor seeking the words and encouragement of another male rape survivor this is the website you need to visit. There is rage, self acknowledgment, self forgiveness, empowerment and sorrow but most of all there is strength beyond words. There is information on men and anger, men and grief, domestic violence, health and all things men. I can’t say enough good about this site. See articles like Yes Women Do Abuse, Revenge: A Dish Best Served Cold, and Be Gone.
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I Now Pronounce You Divorced
A mock legal document that helps divorce a person from their past. This document was written by a lawyer to a friend so it is written with legal language as well as in legal format.
STATE OF FREEDOM DISTRICT COURT
COUNTY OF RELEASE FROM BONDAGE
FILE NO: 2007
ENOLA, Plaintiff v. TOILET’S POWER, MOM’S CONTROL, SHAME, BLAME, SELF-INJURY and SELF-LOATHING, Defendants.
JUDGMENT OF ABSOLUTE DIVORCE…..
Despite it not being a real legal document one gets the empowered feeling of leaving the past behind. Take a look, get divorced, leave a comment for Enola and let her know you dropped by.
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A Story on Boundaries and the Subconscious Mind
“If this story doesn’t show the power of our subconscious mind over our lives, nothing will.” from RisingRainbow blog. This is an inspiring and wonderfully clear entry about how strong a pull our subconscious has over our lives. You gotta read this, it can be applied to many subjects, not just abuse as this entry shows.
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Healing The Shame That Binds You
An entry on Sparks In The Night gives a look at how she views the bindings of shame. Her different look marks not the immobility of shame but the mobility of pride and awareness. She has felt shame but from this entry I gathered from the binding of shame she’s come to appreciate the gift of mobility. Read her entry through, it’s a good read.
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A Hopeful Quote by Emily Dickinson
Dwell In Possibility
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Be Gone! A Personal Story
Scott Abraham runs a male survivors site called MenWeb. On this site is a letter to his mother concerning his abuse. It is a powerful testament to the purity of his heart which is driven by the need to heal and to scream in righteous indignation that his mother was wrong. Here is a snippet of the end of a letter written by Scott Abraham:
Be Gone! A Personal Story Copyright © 1998 by Scott Abraham
You shall steal no more from me, Mother.
I take my life. I rip my destiny from your greedy, bloody hands.
I will be what I decide I am, not what you programmed me to be.
I am my own man, not your little man, Mother.
I will not bear your shame.
I will not bear your pain.
I won’t even carry your name.
I am Scott Barak Abraham.
I am not your son.
You are not my mother.
To read from the beginning and to see a second letter click here.
Child Abuse Kills
I’m not even a fan of Barbara Streisand but this video clip of her singing about child abuse makes her more than just a singer but an advocate for child safety. I’d love the get a copy of the written transcript just to see all the words to the song she is singing. In this video clip from the site CoffeeGrounds.wordpress.com . I believe Barbara refers to emotional abuse when she sings the message, “Careful the things you say, children will listen.” and to the wide effects of child abuse when she sings “Careful the spell you cast.” For survivors, this video cast will validate your experiences and motivate you to keep your promise to never pass down violence to anyone else. Please visit her site to see the video. Also on her site is a link to BrokenSpirits.com which posts links for survivors as well as provides information about Internet safety.
Help Wanted
There is a site called Lavender Power. It’s meant to bring survivors together for empowerment. Well, when browsing on the MySpace version of that site I found a page called Help Wanted. It’s about a little child that needed help with an abuser but no one was listening so she put up a help wanted sign. Someone came to inquire about the sign and there started the stream of people willing to help the abused child.
I really like this. I like the resourcefulness of the little girl. If people aren’t coming to her one way she’ll find another. It says people will listen and that there is power in numbers. This is a top notch story.
This is an inspirational story, a must read. If you want to leave a comment you unfortunately HAVE to have a MySpace account.
Mothers Of Survivors
This blog is written by a woman that searched for information for her own support while her daughter heals from sexual abuse. She says she looked for advice on the net and found a bunch of stuff for survivors but not for the parents of survivors, not for mothers or fathers. This is something that never ever occurred to me, support for mothers of survivors. I thought this journal was good to put up on my links because the idea was totally foreign to me. It seems like a good journal with a mother who truly supports her daughters healing process. I thought it was quite the move to seek out other mothers who support their daughters. This is nice to see.
ARCHIVES
Here are a few past articles that have appeared on My Time To Heal. In order to keep this page from getting too long I’ve cut some entries to make room for others and archived all past and present entries via Google documents.
Violating Anger vs Liberating Anger
The February, 2008 Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse
The Gallery and The Event and The Reward
The Rage Of Helplessness by Black Jab. Read this entry here.
Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse- Anniversary Edition
Subtypes of Alcoholism Discovered29 Jun 2007
Feel free to share these links with anyone who might benefit from them but do not alter or reproduce the Google archived document in any way. There will be more stories of healing and articles of interest on the way so check back often.
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