Tag Archive for 'Children'

We’re Your Neighbors

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Austin
on December 9, 2008
in Abuse, Mental Health and PTSD
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Let’s take a trip to Belgium where a guy for years molested young girls and left them to starve to death in his cellar. His wife and another female knew about the girls that had been taken but said nothing. They killed and tortured numerous children and at least one adult.

A young boy in California wondered into a business. He was starved, chained and in underwear. He’d been kept as a prisoner, sexually assaulted and beaten.

Here in my own state two “people” caged and starved their adopted kids and walked away with a $500 fine and a few short years of probation. WOW! The value of a child’s life is down to a few hundred dollars. One has to wonder what sort of message is being sent to the adopted children caged at the once respected Four Seasons Farm where equine services for the disabled were offered.

In Indiana two young boys were set on fire 4 times before being permanently removed from their home. I’ve talked about them on this blog several times.

My point is this, the people we hear about on the news aren’t that far away. Survivors of this magnitude of trauma are our neighbors, friends and family. We are teachers, doctors and grocery store clerks. This is not happening “just” to people in the news or people across the country.

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Declaration of the Rights of the Child

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Austin
on June 30, 2008
in Abuse, PTSD and Soapbox
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After reading Enola’s entry outlining the outrageous and baffling comments by a lawmaker, reasonable people could feel nothing less than sadness, despair and heart stopping fear for the degraded condition this society has settled itself into and gotten comfortable in. Her entry outlines a defense attorney’s horrific comments as he discusses child rape and the death penalty. The YouTube presentation is one that I personally will remember. His words are here: “I’m going to make sure that the rest of their life is ruined, that when they’re 8 years old, they throw up; when they’re 12 years old, they won’t sleep; when they’re 19 years old, they’ll have nightmares and they’ll never have a relationship with anybody.” Clearly he has never heard of the ideals behind the Decleration of the Rights of Children or it’s amendments. If he had any idea at all what it means to do the right thing he would have kept his mouth shut. If he had any listened to himself just once he would hear himself go against every single idea there is behind caring for and loving our children.

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Disturbing To Say The Least

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Austin
on June 15, 2008
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I’ve run across these images and the slideshows of these children so much. I’ve been quiet about this long enough. When I look at these children I see deep, deep sadness. When I look at the poses the photographer puts the little girl in I see a child posed in a sexualized way. You see the little boy with scars on his face, hopefully mock injuries but offensive non-the less. He too is in objectionable poses. These images are not beautiful, they’re disturbing. My God the little girl has what looks like blood photoshopped in on her chest and face. Who does this to their own child?

There is a difference between a photograph of a beautiful child and a seductively posed child. These are seductive not innocent and childlike as she claims. It angers me beyond belief to see these images and it’s about damn time I said it.

Austin

Four Boys and A Neighbor

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Austin
on December 27, 2007
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Cry Baby (age 13) - No, no, don’t call the police. I’m on probation. I’ll go to jail for 6 months. It was M, it wasn’t me.

M (age 14) wasn’t yet across the street so he had no clue he was being blamed for everything.

Concerned Neighbor wanted to say: Jail! You in jail? You’re the same kid who got his ass kicked by a skinny little something. You fell on the ground and cried like a girl because he kicked you. What on earth do you think you’d do when some big boys get a hold of you?

Concerned Neighbor said- Probation? You’re 13. You shouldn’t even know the word probation.

Little Pimp wanna be (age 9) stood white as snow nearly in tears next to Cry Baby and his little brother. M was still across the street hiding in the bushes. They kept calling to him. I wasn’t sure if he was going to run or join the blame party. Finally he came over and stood with us.

Cry Baby’s brother (age 9)- If you call the police my Dad is going to whoop my ass.

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Child Abductions In Indianapolis

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Austin
on December 24, 2007
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A major concern in the city right now is an increase in child abductions and attempted abductions. Right now we have a man on the loose who has attempted to snatch 2 girls off their bus stop. The man was described by both girls with really close descriptions. Both girls fought hard to get away and both got away without being harmed. They were brave in that they went to their mothers who in turn called the police to report the crime. Everyone is on edge about our schools now, not just because of abductions but because of recent health issues such as meningitis and TB break outs in our schools. It seems going to school isn’t safe on any level. Now we’re worrying about sending our little girls on the bus stop basically in front of the house. I don’t know if there’s a person in this city so fed up with crime and so fed up with hearing how unsafe our children are on many levels.

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Convicted In The Media

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Austin
on December 24, 2007
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The perpetrator in this crime held a toddler by box cutter during a police standoff. After the police went in and safely removed the child they found the remains of another child who they believed to be a child missing for some two years. The child missing is the perpetrator’s child. The very next night’s news came on and said the identity of the remains is the child missing. I stopped to listen as the reporter went on to tell us that our criminal served time for child molestation as well as battery and a whole host of other crimes. Of course viewers were ready for justice. I mean come on, we’re about to take a child molester off the street again and we’re going to get him on murder charges. We’ll never see the likes of this guy again. The cornier then came on and said that the way the remains were stored mummified the body making cause of death easier to detect. He said it was heart wrenching to know the remains he examined belong to a child. Next they cut to the reporter who rattles off all the charges on the perp. He then said something that floored me. He said 100% accuracy for the identity of the child could take up to 2 weeks. The news report ended.

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To Catch A Predator: Dateline NBC

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Austin
on May 31, 2006
in Borderline Personality Disorder, Dissociative Identity Disorder, Mental Health, PTSD, Soapbox and Therapy
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I’ve watched the show. I think it’s great that they would put their mugs on TV and catch them in the act. There was seemingly no way for them to get away with what they’d done and no way for them to talk their way out of it. The key word is “seemingly.”

There was a guy that they caught twice, once at the child’s house and then at McDonald’s. His behavior was typical of a child molester. He bitched up really quickly when confronted by an adult about what he was doing. At first I wondered why they let the men go but maybe they didn’t realize they could detain them. After the first show they started arresting them right on the spot. It’s true that men from all walks of life, all colours and sizes showed up to the house. A man even brought his little son to the home of the child he intended to molest. What kind of crap is that? This show does a lot of good in that it catches predators but even their efforts are sometimes thwarted by unjust laws that protect offenders.

There is a lot of focus on male offenders. Usually people are disgusted at male offenders. They’re ready to throw the book at them but they turn around and joke about female offenders. The other night on Jay Leno he made 2 jokes about pedophiles. The first joke was about a female teacher found in bed with not one but 2 of her students. He said it was the result of over crowding in the schools. He said, “Whatever happened to one on one tutoring.” The crowd groaned but they also laughed. In the same show he talked about one of the men who plead guilty on Dateline. He said that the man didn’t get the sentence he should have gotten because he was too short to go to prison. See, our justice system says this man is too short to go to prison because he’ll be “victimized.” Jay said they should give him some shoe lifts and send him up state. Why did he feel differently about the male offender than he did the female offender? TV personalities also do a lot to damage public opinion concerning sexual offenses. I wonder if he realized that in the same show he thought lightly of the boys that were molested but was angered by the girls that were molested. I wonder if he even thought twice about the message he was sending.

He Knows How To Be QuietI thought more than twice about it. These women are let go to offend again. They’re let go to ruin some little boy’s life. They’re looked at as less dangerous because they are female but truthfully, they’re adding to the number of potential criminals by molesting these boys. There is little help out there for male survivors. The support network for them is less than that for women by a gross percentage but the percentage rate for male survivors to become violent criminals or sex offenders themselves is high also. Does the law understand that they are letting female offenders go so that they can help increase the number of criminals on the street? When you don’t view women as equal predators you give them a free pass to ravage the lives of innocent people. There is nothing funny about that.

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See also: Declaration of the Rights of the Child

To Catch A Predator: Dateline NBC -Wednesday, May 31, 2006-1:36 AM

Women Offenders

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Austin
on November 16, 2005
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The boy threw his life away, and for what? He doesn’t even get the girl, what he’ll get is the death penalty.

A woman decides to marry a 15 year old boy and throws her life away, for what? To be branded as a pedophile for the rest of her life. Sexual abuse kills the soul but like most sex offenders, she’ll never see the death penalty.

When you look up the word pedophile in the dictionary it does not say “A man that has sex with a child.” Why do we make excuses for women who have sex with children? We make excuses by giving them names like “mentally ill.” Isn’t it all mental illness? I mean come on. When we hear that a man has abused his daughter we just think of him as yet another pervert, a man! We don’t think twice about weather or not he should be given treatment or if he should or should not go to jail. We do not have mass media covering the abuse or have MSN cover the story before they cover the resignation of top Jordan officials. It doesn’t happen because we are use to them hurting children in this way. We are accustomed to it, almost apathetic in a way. But when we hear about a woman abusing a child, especially a female child, we move from apathy straight to “let’s get her some help.” Let’s throw a diagnosis on her so that we can explain away why she has chosen to victimize children. Why? Why is abuse by a female any different than abuse from a male? And why is there just now focus on the subject? Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy is a hot topic at the moment, but 20 years ago they just sent you to the loony bin and forgot about you. They’d rather explain it away now because the thought of a mother hurting her own child for her own gain is too much for our society to take. We have to give them a label so we can stomach the thought that woman are predators too.

When a child dies in a home the first parent they look at is the mother but still both parents are immediate suspects. When a child is sexually abused in the home the first parent they look at is the father. I know that time and again the male in the home of an abused child is the main abuser, but to lose sight of the role of the mother is failing the child of true protection. Not all mothers really know what’s going on but most of them do. My goodness! There is too much information out there describing behavioral changes to not see what is happening to your child in your own home.

A woman that chooses anyone at all over her children is an abuser. If she is willing to neglect the needs of her kids to put the needs of her mate (male or female) first it’s abuse. We’re use to hearing this aspect of abuse and we sigh with grief when we hear it. We don’t make excuses for her. We don’t file her away under the term, “mentally ill.” We also don’t have the attention of the country because of that “phenomena.” We almost expect it, the same as we expect to hear that a man has abused a child. How many times have you gasped at the number of registered female sex offenders online? Compared to the men, the woman offenders are few. I would wager that the numbers are not so off balance because many times victims are too ashamed to come forward and say they’ve been abused by their mother. But you know what? At one time we were ashamed to come forward and say we were abused by our fathers, our grandfathers, uncles or the neighborhood boy. We don’t make excuses for them. We just call them “men”. Why do we make excuses for the opposite sex? A predator is a predator, male or female.

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