I’ve been thinking…..no one, and I do mean no one is as reckless as you without intent. It’s one thing to step on my toes, it’s quite another to take kicks to the groin repeatedly. You kick below the belt way too often for your actions to fall under the category “reckless”. The joke you told me about incest in Pennsylvania was a below the belt kick. After you told me you said, “But I guess you wouldn’t think a joke like that is funny.” I said, “You seem to be full of jokes lately.” Silence, more silence, dial tone.
When Barney put in extra cabinets there was “something” behind the boards way in the back. I never saw it. I asked him to remove it and don’t tell me what it was because I didn’t want to know. I turned around and left. You kept talking until I finally out right told you to shut up. A few days later while talking about something totally unrelated you brought up exactly what was behind the boards. You knew full well why I didn’t want to know. Another instance….I stopped watching Criminal Minds quite some time ago because the show got to be way too triggering. Was it really necessary for me to have to again tell you to shut up and don’t tell me anything at all about this season’s finale? This time I brought up your passive aggression and how you wait until I’m not thinking about the subject then bring it up. You apologized, cried a bit, apologized for being hurtful and figured it was over.
Continue reading ‘About Your Passive Aggression’
A second friend of mine is dealing with a domestic violence issue which to me is yet another indication that this form of abuse is ramped. For the last few days as her husband sits in jail, she’s proudly taken steps to get help. She is not trying to handle the criminal abuser on her own. She has reached out to the community, to legal agencies and to friends. What a show of strength and courage.
Because this is the second time in two weeks that a friend of mine has been in a domestic violence crisis I feel the need to get some links together for other Indiana women in this situation. I’m going to do a page on this journal with extensive information on shelters and resources in Indiana. This will not be a page that links to other links, that’s quite frustrating when a person is looking for help. I will link to specific pages that give names, numbers and locations as well as offer resources on how to sign up for free self defense classes or obtain a free restraining order in Indiana. I hope to have this page compiled within a few days. One very different thing I’ll do on the page, to benefit those out of state, is put up my search queries. All the survivor will need to do is change the name from Indiana to the state they live in or wish to reside in.
Please remember, rich and poor alike abuse and fall victim to abuse. Rich and poor alike have equal opportunities at the shelters that will be on the page. And, rich and poor alike need safety. This includes men. Resources for battered men will be included on the page.
If anyone has resources for battered men (men as victims of domestic violence) please leave a comment and I will include all appropriate information on the list. If anyone has domestic violence resources from any state (for male or female) please leave a comment and I will link to all appropriate information.
Sundrip has undergone a few changes as far as its template goes. The new template allows for drop down menus. Once the Domestic Violence Resource page has been completed it will be in the drop down menu under My Time To Heal.
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The Domestic Violence Resource page is coming very soon.
Love Does Not Hurt-Sunday, April 13, 2008-12:50AM EST
You shouldn’t have to die to be safe……
Several days ago a man called 911 to report a murder-suicide. The police showed up to find that he had killed his wife, his 14 year old child and finally himself. The police said this is the second time in 2 months that the city has dealt with the murder of a child. Several months before two mothers and their babies were shot and killed by intruders. When I say babies I do mean babies. One child was just shy of 2 years old, the second baby was 4 months old. They both were shot in their mother’s arms. That case had nothing to do with domestic violence but it did have to do with children dying. It’s rather disturbing to say the least.
I went to visit one of my neighbors today whom I haven’t seen in months. When she answered the door she looked pretty good. She looked healthy but physically tired. She was making cheesecakes for work as she told me about being held at knife point by her husband only days ago. She’d come home from work to find the house empty, which she found strange. Her husband was sitting in the living room furious. He accused her of cheating on him and told her he was going to kill her. Evidently a friend stopped by before my neighbor got home and found her husband sitting in the living room with a gun. He said he was tired of his wife cheating and was going to kill her that evening. He sat there with his daughter in the living room, holding the gun, telling the neighbor he was going to kill his wife that evening. The neighbor talked him down, took the gun and the teenage girl and left. That’s when my neighbor got home and the knife incident happened. She said the knife was huge, one she hadn’t seen before, something along the lines of a gutting knife.
I put a tad bit of distance between myself and her, crossed my arms and continued to listen. My body language said, “I’m threatened” but emotionally I was frustrated, angry and felt helpless.
Continue reading ‘Murder – Suicide: Domestic Violence’
A dirt smeared little girl climbing my chain link fence said emphatically, “My Daddy beats my Mommy.” This changed small talk over a cigarette to information on the shelter that gave me a fresh start. For the life of me I couldn’t remember the name of the shelter, just the address. I know that address by heart; it was my first home coming back to this city. The name was gone but the address rolled off my tongue as if I still lived there or something. I don’t though; I live domestic violence free and have since 1994. (The address to the center is not confidential. The building is marked with the name. For me, that name means safety.)
Continue reading ‘Domestic Violence Stops In My Home’
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